Is s-e-x really important?

Three letters that rule the world, but do they really? What is real and what is a wish created by media and the attempt to keep society young and prosper? Politics and religion make procreation into a thing of great importance. Media makes romantic love seem like the heaven we all should live to reach.

 

People marry young to be free to finally have the bodily encounter media made them dream about since the first time they snooped into the books, films, adds of the so longed for world of being adult. Wishes that lead to expectations hard to meet. What for? Do people need the constant reminder of their fertility? Would people simply stop to procreate if they are not reminded that they can at every place they frequent? What insight does that hint at?

 

People run from commitment like it where the plague while asking for eternal love and devotion at the same time, best to get from all sort of people that are easy to hand it over, greed assisted by so-called parties that know-it-all and councel to live and approach live as the individuals people are.How does one live focused on individuality in a working relationship? I guess the councelors don't believe relationships are worth saving and aim for prevention. How to prevent anticipating the worst?  How to prevent that they assume the worst?

 

The letters rule human life through many autorities. Some authorities that people chose on their own, others they were given by chance, ideas planted with intent and calculation. Wishes of many to through masses of people into conflict and wonder. Is a man only a man if he isn't impotent ? Is a man only a man if he jumps all that lives? Is masculinity just another word mindless horny ape? When has adult become a synonym for able to perform adultery and worse? Is being human reduced to being a fertile procreater and an active participant of the wishful dreams society sustains?

 

People seem to stop thinking as soon as it comes to the topic of aims in life, most add romantic relationships. Do they really listen to inner compulsion to pair up or do they listen to needs planted by inventive minds? No secrets!

 

Society has to encourage people to  pair up because it needs children to remain a working society. The smaller the society the more procreation is wanted. While serious religious societies aim for children of more or less funtioning units to assure that the childs first steps are well guarded, states just take the offspring any way it comes. The more pressuring the decreasing birthrate becomes the more aggressice the propaganda against unwilling or unable to procreate parts of society becomes. Nothing to do with belief all about numbers, power and securing established social systems. All to influence the minds and focus the blame to change opinions by pressure and get results.

 

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Comments (26)

  1. mythoughts77

    To be rich is to have power, with power comes sex.
    To be poor is to want free sex and or control sex by controlling women to go out and sell them selves for sex and give the money to their owners. It’s a very lucrative but illegal business ( in most of the free world)
    This it the way since the beginning of time…. Sex sex sex people want it,

    June 19, 2014
    1. yayuki

      obviously lol or sex wouldn’t sell

      June 19, 2014
      1. mythoughts77

        I guess it was and you are right.
        Its best not to have a taste of it then you don’t crave it….. It is the birth of lust.

        June 19, 2014
  2. ericpgranada

    I prefer lovemaking…there is only pure passion, longing. loving, needing and wanting. Sex is filthy.

    June 19, 2014
    1. yayuki

      I was aiming for a more biological attached term… lovemaking would have brought the emotional side into this

      June 19, 2014
      1. ericpgranada

        Coitus, copulation etc. I’d stick to lovemaking still

        June 19, 2014
        1. yayuki

          generally it is the better term… because it is more romantic and less ‘f**k thanks goodbye’ but does the thoughts that follow the word really fit to the general observation of the practised sexuality of the majority? Sex is the term most used and it has the second meaning gender, which makes it more general and less judgemental in a way – downtoearth… other terms are often more used by one gender or are to emotional… My first choice was f**king in the title because of the several meaning that come along… but then I considere it to vulgar also it would have made my post adult… which is interesting in itself…

          June 19, 2014
          1. ericpgranada

            But the F word is scientific made vulgar by people. In my language which is Tagalog, the F word is K word bu believe me yuki even the most uneducated and hardened criminal will never curse another using the said word. Its just a case to case or person to person thing what word they are most comfortable with. During my high school years the F word was never used in our science and biology subjects our teachers used the word sex.

            June 19, 2014
            1. yayuki

              hmhm it is interesting how the acceptance of words changes. Sometimes they even losse the original meaning when they are singled out to represent something else, often refer to a historical context, or a vulgar or disrespected topic. Sometimes one even can recognise the upbringing and level of education in the language used, other times creative mind use those terms to provoke. I was wondering if I wanted to provoke when I chose the f word. In serval languages it is a common word used by young people because of the emotional detachment they feel it represents perhaps. It is interesting that for japanese it is easier to say than the word love, but I get the tendency generally heads into this direction. Chinese are as far as my experience goes comfortable with all words (young generation) I don’t know many old chinese people. Korean are mostly ok with the crude words in friendly surrounding. The english show a preference for the f word, the french, too, the italian, as well, german mostly, spanish a bit less, maybe an european thing to be less emotional?
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              It is interesting that your teachers only used sex, mine used the fword to get the attention of people, in the teaching process they used sex

              June 19, 2014
          2. ericpgranada

            The F word for many no longer means anything but an every day expression. Some consider it a curse or “mura” in Pilipino. I remember a basketball player attacked one spectator who yelled “F you!” and the poor guy had to be brought to a hospital. Depending on culture people have a different view of the word…how its said and how they’d react to it.

            June 19, 2014
  3. miss-ranty-pants

    Sex has a lot of loading on it, the spiritual, biological, marital, enjoyment, are all of these wrong – or right? It all depends on the individual situation. I like sex but I haven’t had it in a very long time, I probably place far less importance on it that most people, but I still think it is both healthy and important to people. Though I think that relgion should be kept out of our pants.

    June 22, 2014
    1. yayuki

      Individual situation is a good approach… But the individual situtaion is in contrast with the constant pressure society puts on the topic… people who don’t have sex feel less human because they are led to believe it is something wrong with them for not being able to perform or not being interested at all or temporary. … I have to think about the aspect of healthy since soo many people get infected by sexual transmitted diseases… Important it is to people especially from the biological aspect… Religion can be a good guidebook through life and to not sleep with everyone when the itch hits is not that bad a guide. As is the idea to only sleep with theone you marry because it keeps all the problems that arise from comparing, and looking over the neighbours fence, at bay.
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      point is:
      people live in a world where they have a lot of choices in this matter, yet people still feel pressured and are influenced in their choices. Does free choice exist and why isn’t it the choice people take?

      June 22, 2014
      1. miss-ranty-pants

        There is some stigma attached to not having sex, and wrongly so, it should be a person’s choice. The heath benefits I was talking about are not disease, they have more to do with tension, STD’s are avoidable, easily avoidable.
        I’m sorry but I strongly disagree, relgion is rarely a good guide to life, not the way it is used to oppress and hold back humanity. On a personal moral level our parents should be teaching us right and wrong, not a book written by xenophobic nomads, 3000 years ago. Some times relgion is a good thing but in regards to sex, sexuality and gender, most relgion is outrageously wrong.
        I don’t advocate sleeping with people every time you feel the urge but that’s an extreme, and ‘saving yourself for marriage’ is another extreme given most relationships now last 2.9 years.

        Pressure is a matter of individual strength, everyone feels pressured to do things some give in some don’t, it has to do with educating children not threatening them with god’s wrath or the idea they might catch a disease, the thing that is most likely to happen is actually pregnancy.

        June 22, 2014
        1. yayuki

          I understand, iwas pointing out that there are as many reasons to have than not to have… so all it should come down to is the individual choice. I’ve never felt pressured by religion or oppressed by thoughts of others… I have my own head and I can think so I can make decisions, it can’t be wrong though to look at what other people thought before and to find yourself a base that won’t shatter. People feel homeless in a soul kind of way these ways, they feel like they never belong anywhere… Religion is meant for that. As far as I know religion actually says nothing about sex, people interpret a lot into some lines and the rest is tradition or canon of thoughts people brought along to keep up a stable society. I think your view of religion has a strong imprint of extremes, exclusion of people and rules. That is not what religion is about, religion is not about society so much as it is personal. All to often people raped religion for their own greedy reasons, all gets up covered nice and neat by parols that make others believe it is for the best.
          About the parents, well depends on the parents I would say, do they know? Parents are human and make lots of mistakes, often their own insecurities, expereinces, failures and wishes are a hard front to come up against. Their pressure is a lot stronger than religion can ever be because the child is attached to them and wants to be loved.
          Pregnancy is one thing, yes as avoidable as STD or Aids or all the other diseases that can be transmitted by close bodycontact…. unfprtunately the fact that all of them happen all the time, people are just to ‘stupid’ to belive it can happen to them…

          June 23, 2014
          1. miss-ranty-pants

            There is a documentary you should have a look at called “Virgin daughters in USA” that’s the kind of disturbing and overbearing pressure that freaks me out.
            https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cujFUeJ1fvI
            I grew up in a family that believed in Christianity, although in a mild form but there are much worse forms. To attach any kind of mythical significance to virginity and call it purity is dangerous, sex is a function, a physical thing, every multi-cellular organism does it, love is a completely different thing but are forced together.
            Growing up and staying healthy are a matter of logic and sense, that may include a spiritual aspect granted, but I don’t think that it is essential.

            June 23, 2014
            1. yayuki

              I don’t know about that… I always believed that people should live the way they are comfortable, just not allow themselves to be pressured… all the people that I know ,the ‘normal’ people with stable lifes believe in something and don’t pressure others to believe the same… Maybe I’ll look at the link nonetheless (new input is always good) but well if they want to be a virgin they can, they can even become a nun….
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              I am not so much interested in virginity in contrast to playing the wild side…as in the utterly stupid conviction that for being adult having sex (on a regular basis and at every given opportunity) is a necessity… a lot of people believe that (3 date rule) if you like someone enough to go for a 3rd date most people go prepared… if you ask it is because it is expected and they don’t want trouble so early in their relationship, women feel they have to play a bit hard to get until the 3rd date but not longer because the guy will leave, guys want to see what they get and not invest time that doesn’t pay off… And they believe they start a relationship this way
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              sex is a normal thing not the golden goose… I am thick and tired of people of all gender complaining and crying their eyes out ( guess who has to listen to them) about ho wthey truely believed this person was the one but unfortunately it is unreasonable to date them anymore because the sex wasn’t much… they like the person, get along well but well reality didn’t fit what they see on TV… the size that doesn’t matter ended a three month relationship with marriage plans on the first fuck, because the girl does believe in size being important for making good babies (some old traditional asian whatever…)… a guy broke of a relationship because his grilfriend refused to get bigger tits and it makes him feel like f***king a guy, but guess what the guy sobs into his bear because he has to end a relationship that was very satisfactory in all other aspects…
              and yes, these people sound stupid like hell but actually they are eductaed people and they are smart in a lot of topics…

              June 24, 2014
            2. miss-ranty-pants

              I don’t mean people should feel pressure, but they shouldn’t feel guilt, its tough enough getting by in life without feeling that just by being intimate you’ve soiled yourself.
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              I don’t think really there should be any rules other than what people feel themselves comfortable with. I’ve had a lot of casual sex, and I have also gone slow on relationships, and to be honest I have also encountered that want to take it slow with ex-boyfriends, I’ve dated before over a month without sleeping with my partner, as I said it depends on how you feel and that’s a personal thing.
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              I couldn’t get married without having sex, I just think it would be insane to not be intimate with the person you are committing to permanently, it has nothing to do with size, and even if they where not brilliant in bed, that can be learned.
              Men who demand bigger boobs – don’t marry them, period, that’s not a relationship, that’s a man who wants an object not a partner. All of this comes down to fetish, and fetish comes from denial.

              June 24, 2014
          2. yayuki

            I had to much stupid talk about sex with too many people and all was about how it didn’t turn out what it was supposed to be and well it is not my favourite topic and I couldn’t help but think that it would have been better had these people talked about this with their partners but well, obvioulsy they were embarassed…
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            me working with kids for free also ended in 13 and 14 year olds trying to tell me they know all already and that included saving money for surgery to make whatever they have bigger, longer, more impressive before they show it to their partners… well at least I don’t have to worry about them ending pregnant if they stick to that believe also I wonder if their current believe ain’t worse…
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            I don’t know, I think I don’t care… marriage has always been about security and companionship, somewhere in the 18th century some brilliant people mixed other stuff into it which works most time, but not on what the majority declares love is…
            I don’t think one can say no to anything in this regard -- what if the person who one ends up loving is ill and can’t, would one get rid of them and what would that make oneself? There are as many approaches on this as there are people, maybe.
            THat would probably make an interesting post though… who would start a relationship with someone who can’t?

            June 25, 2014
  4. wirelessguru1

    YES, of course it is.

    June 23, 2014
    1. yayuki

      biological, political and society related arguments are excluded… Feel free to give a good pro argument… and please don’t write some low budget argument like it feels good or something like that…

      June 24, 2014
      1. wirelessguru1

        June 24, 2014
        1. yayuki

          I knew you would do that lol

          June 25, 2014
          1. wirelessguru1

            June 26, 2014
            1. yayuki

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  5. jeffreycraig

    First off; S-E-X is a necessary Biological function..and has deep biological roots within our Genetic makeup! SEX for recreation and pleasure is very different! Evolutionary Biologists confirm that “we” in fact (humans) have not evolved that much over the thousands of years we have been on earth!

    July 15, 2014
    1. yayuki

      Indeed it is… I was looking at the more philosophical approach

      July 16, 2014