romance is needed in life, oh really?

People are people and people need romance, or do they? What is romance in the first place? Romance is what is perceived as romantic, now what is perceived as romantic is an individual observation. The more common expressions are tought by observation: flowers, candles, good food, sweets, presents, a trending new thing, verbal expressions of individual applied praise...

 

Are those things really romantic? Someone visited often gets flowers, sweets and the regional prefered commonly agreed upon as polite beverage to gift. Politeness or romance, why does it seem romantic in one case and just polite in another? Is it the intention behind the gift? More likely it is the emotion of the receiver which influences the reception and often jumps to conclusions. A dozen polite gifts are recepted as symbols of interest, resulting in people approached, an approaches verified by reason which the approached fail to reject because romance simply never crossed their mind but no reason can be thought up to not satisfy a more basic physical need.

 

What is romance then? An emotional reaction to own emotions caused by the awareness of certain procedure, patterns of behaviour, commonly agreed upon symbols and metaphors which leads to the conviction that the person, who performs the procedure, behavioural patterns, refers tothe commonly agreed upon symbols and metaphors, is aware of the meaning and does so with the intent the receiver wishes him to have. See where that leads to confusion? Who is aware of what? What commonly agreed upon procedure is who refering to at what time?

 

All romance leads to love, does it? A common belief or so it seems, but no, it doesn't! Romance leads nowhere, people do. Thoughts lead to patterns of behaviour, which are either based on expectations of society, expectations of people the people involved are attached to, or expectations and beliefs of people themselves. In a haze of either comfort or lust induced happiness, alcohol or drug induced worldviews, or convictions that the personal emotions have to the same as the feelings of the other party involved actions are taken that have more to do with one's own thoughts and fullfilment of wishes than another person.

 

Has romance anything to do with love at all? Romance has become a tool to spice up a relationship, romantic gestures are thought of as an universal remedy, a cure-all of the perishability of dedictation to a emotion people are fond of and the expression shared which can result in new life, which draws the main focus of dedication to itself by compulsions set to survival. Love is not needed to cause either, it can though, but mostly is it overlooked because romance is much more appealing and adventurous to experience. After all who visits the park when the amusement park is just around the corner?

 

Is romance a basic to survive? Perhaps it is. It definitely is for all those who can't resist the the social induced dreams or the compulsion induced wish to procreate. For all those who are not ruled by either of those romance is nothing more than a mere possibility, a real choice. No becomes an option that is not frowned upon and not the decision of a frightened, burned or unfeeling heart.

 

 

So is romance needed in life is one of those questions that can answered with a no!

No, because it is not a need a human has to see fullfilled to live a life.

No, because it is not an imperative necessity for either happiness or contentment.

 

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Comments (27)

  1. ericpgranada

    So they think it is. Flowers, candles, good food and sweets…hmmm i’ve seen many of these on Chinese tombstones.

    June 19, 2014
    1. yayuki

      what do you think all those chines romances with ghosts came from

      June 19, 2014
      1. ericpgranada

        No idea really except i have several macho Chinese classmates before who are really scared of the supernatural. lol

        June 19, 2014
        1. yayuki

          really.. I love mystery which involves paranormal as in ghosts, different views, different origin, different regional tradition and so on… oral lore vs. manuscript transmission and all… a lot of the old stories involve the dead falling in love with the living, small gods falling in love with the people that bring gifts, lovers that died dragging the other to the grave, dead lover taking revenge for a betrayal, all in varying degrees of physical / spiritual involvement, oh and the non-human ghosts as well nearly forgot about them…

          June 19, 2014
          1. ericpgranada

            I had several true ghost stories published in a weekly magazine. They were my own personal experiences many full moons ago.

            June 19, 2014
            1. yayuki

              sounds interesting…

              June 19, 2014
  2. mythoughts77

    Romance is not a thing it is an emotion you can’t buy it or sell it, you can only experience it through the processes of love.

    June 19, 2014
    1. yayuki

      no contradiction I agree

      June 19, 2014
      1. mythoughts77

        Me too

        June 19, 2014
        1. yayuki

          but it raises a lot of controversal thoughts – romance does – because it has more than one meaning and the meaning changes inside hehe

          June 19, 2014
          1. mythoughts77

            yes you are right I think it has as many meanings as there are people in the world as does love. L(

            June 19, 2014
            1. yayuki

              that is a possibility… since mostly emotions are very individual

              June 19, 2014
            2. mythoughts77

              So true like a finger print, Unique.

              June 19, 2014
            3. yayuki

              in a way I’d agree

              June 19, 2014
  3. cjb321

    Romance can be a myth or a reality….depending on the situation.

    June 19, 2014
    1. yayuki

      it can be both

      June 19, 2014
      1. rowan1234

        I agree with Cj321 because I like the way that she worded that.

        June 19, 2014
        1. yayuki

          yes, she said a good thing…

          June 19, 2014
          1. rowan1234

            Indeed.

            June 19, 2014
            1. yayuki

              June 19, 2014
    2. yayuki

      I was aiming for a different thing though… I analysed all the reasons why romance will always be a myth for the majority

      June 19, 2014
  4. shadow-storm

    I prefer a walk through the natural beauty of a park, the other is too full of hyped expectations that demand excitement and thrills to be sustained, only to experience exhaustion and a tendency to feel let down if expectations are not met.
    While in the natural environment, I learn to look for quiet beauty around me, to observe closer and learn from my surroundings and slow my busy mind by seeing beyond myself and relating to the world as it shows me its wonders gradually as I learn to appreciate them.

    Then comes refreshment even if working hard to progress through the landscapes’ challenges of terrain, and greater peace from increased understanding of its ways.

    June 19, 2014
    1. yayuki

      good reply
      parks are great

      June 19, 2014
      1. shadow-storm

        (I hope the allegory/parallel came across as it related to your topic, it’s easy for me to get caught up in metaphor so hopefully it conveys my concurring with your conclusion. )

        June 19, 2014
        1. yayuki

          metaphors are great to get caught up in

          June 21, 2014
  5. jeffreycraig

    Hmmmm…you say (conclude) “NO?” It’s not a Logical based question, as that defeats the entire premise of “romance.” Romance, as an idealism for fulfillment in life is very individual and does not fall within a same priority system for all.

    July 15, 2014
    1. yayuki

      hm

      July 16, 2014