What is more important the emotional aspect of love or the physical?

Most people will answer the same way... I actually asked about 40 people when I had to wait somewhere and got really bored. As expected most of them answered the same way.

 

Guess what...

 

Yes, exactly...

 

Now I could look at the male and female replies and analyse in what ways they are different or which thoughts are hidden underneath the reply. But I don't believe in the recently practised way of the all present way of evaluation and decide to simply say that the forty people represent an equal amount of male and female input.

 

The most common reply .... of course the emotional aspect is more important!

 

Second made the answer which 8 people gave... the emotional aspect is more important but the physical is very important, too.

 

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Well, interested as I am in thoughts and actions it was not the only question I asked my fellow waiting people and people walking past ...

 

Now you wonder which was the other?

 

Would you leave someone you love because the other party doesn't live up to your expectations of the physical aspect?

 

About 60% inquired in what way.

 

In all possible ways of course, not being able to due to sickness or injury, loss of interest, different preferences and so on...

 

I didn't expect people to stick one hundred to the conviction they uttered before. Actually I expected about 70% to say something contradictory to the prior given conviction, because it is a fact that what one believes to be the best reply is not the choice one will make for oneself. The main reason why human beings tend to act in ways that are not generally thought to be compatible with their beliefs. Of course in everyday life people are not aware of all contradictions otherwise they'd lock themselves in constant inner conflict.

 

Actually though it was 95% that simply said they would end the relationship under these circumstances.

 

I asked what would make a difference and only one person could think of a few possible circumstances in which the choice could be to stay with their partner.

 

I somehow expected more people to make a difference.

 

I had a good talk with all of them and humans being curious they wondered of course why I wanted to know. I explained and told them I had been pondering the topic for some time now and tried to compare thoughts. I got to know that most of the people there have blogs themselves, not for philosophical thoughts though.

 

What to make out of this?

 

Obviously people believe that the emotional aspect of love should be the most important but either haven't experienced an emotional attachment which would make them reconcider or simply can't imagine a life without physical love, maybe they fear entering a situation like this would ultimately lead to betrayal and hurt...

 

So where does this lead to?

 

Which is the illusion and which is the liveable choice?

 

What about the different forms of love?

 

If 95% of the world population made this choice...

 

 

Loneliness could become destructive!

 

 

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Comments (16)

  1. dincali

    without the emotional, the physical is as empty as a one night stand. without the physical, the emotional just strains and drains and makes one feel used…so either you got it or you don’t.
    without either one, you have nothing!
    and it’s not the emotional….it should be the compassion, the trust, the bond, because without that, there is NO emotion…period.

    July 16, 2014
    1. yayuki

      thank you… this was the reply I had expected when I asked them… What would be your answer to the second question I asked them? Would you choose the emotional over the physical or would you agree with the people I asked?

      July 16, 2014
      1. dincali

        since i have never had either; i’m sorry, i can not choose what i do not know first hand.

        July 16, 2014
        1. yayuki

          I like your sincere reply… it is a difficult choice, the people I asked: 80% were in a relationship they either considered to be a lasting one or were married… It made me think…

          July 16, 2014
          1. dincali

            thank you.

            July 16, 2014
            1. yayuki

              July 16, 2014
  2. wirelessguru1

    They are both important.

    July 16, 2014
    1. yayuki

      Indeed from many angles they are… but in a situation of choice which would be considered more important…

      July 18, 2014
      1. wirelessguru1

        Say what!?

        July 18, 2014
        1. yayuki

          Circumstances are what they are… there are hundreds of injuries or diseases that can end up in disability… that is a fact…I asked the people was would they do when they are/were faced with the problem of their partner, the person they love, being unable to give them the physical aspect… would they stay or leave… and the conclusion from that….

          July 18, 2014
  3. scarletts_letters

    Some of the best relationships I have ever had have involved nothing more than hugging, most of the least meaningful involved sex only.

    July 16, 2014
    1. yayuki

      hmhm… that is deep and I would say logical true… Still I was surprised how many people would say that a non physical relationship is a no-go for them… strange isn’t it

      July 18, 2014
      1. scarletts_letters

        Its comfort to most people, were ashamed of our bodies – or raised to be, physical comfort is extremely intoxicating, I think a good third of my former clients needed to be wanted, maybe as much as half. Intoxicating or reassuring.

        July 18, 2014
        1. yayuki

          hm I guess so, there are always people who think it is odd to be alright while naked… japanese public baths as well as the nordic baths make people less body focused… a naked body is nothing special just a body… I wish people would loose up and realize that a body is not tempting but the person in it

          July 18, 2014
          1. scarletts_letters

            It has a lot to do with repression I think and the media that makes people who are not perfect feel ashamed.

            July 19, 2014
            1. yayuki

              I believe you are right… media and parents trying to teach kids what not to do because of what others might think

              July 19, 2014